On Being OK With Losing Your Job
It has been an interesting few weeks full of decision making and changes. Much like the experience the Mad Fientist wrote about, it started with an invitation from my boss to talk that left me knowing something was up, and similarly, it finished with the end of my sweet remote working gig.
This is not a sad story about our early retirement plans being derailed. I’m currently writing this without a worry in the world, from an island in the South Pacific while overlooking a garden patio with a pool and bikini clad co-author: This is a reminder to myself to be grateful for the serenity that comes with having enough Fuck You Money that you can take unexpected changes in stride and be able to turn the situation to your advantage.
When I previously found a new job, I had negotiated a remote working arrangement. It was supposed to be a temporary arrangement with us planning to move at some indefinite point in the future. I had enjoyed working remotely and wasn’t sure if we were ready to move, so I figured I’d go all in and ask to keep working remotely… what did I have to lose? The idea was shot down, and we left the conversation with it looking like things were coming to an end. I knew this might happen, and had been working on another job option, but then changed my mind and decided that moving would be a new adventure and perhaps we should consider it. We looked into what would be required, decided we could do it and started to get things ready. Then the fateful call: our previous conversation had gotten the ball rolling on changes on my employers end, and it became clear that remote working or relocation wouldn’t be a good option anymore for either of us.
I was cocky, indecisive, and asked for too much… is that a common side effect of having nothing to lose? On the plus side, after the shock of the unexpected changes wore off, everything is working out great. We are not moving in a hurry after-all, we did find out that we could shift gears on a dime if we wanted and get ready to move, and decided that perhaps we might be doing that in the near future (on our own timelines) as we get ready for new adventures. In the meantime, the backup job option worked out fine after some bumps with the timing, and the FU fund helped ensure that we were able to take everything in stride and learn things along the way. I’ll chalk this up to learning experience.